To Experience Abundance In Your Business, You MUST Have Strong Boundaries

Did you read last week’s article in the Abundant Business ezine?  It may be my most-responded-to article yet.  So many readers wrote in to say that it struck a chord (and to share triumphant success stories of cleaning up their own boundaries).  I’ve posted the article below.  This is SUCH an important topic – please feel free to repost and re-Tweet. To make sure you don’t miss any articles, sign up for the Abundant Business ezine here.

If you follow me on Twitter or are a friend on Facebook (if not, please do!), you may have noticed that I was particularly silent last week.  Why?   After 3 weekends of travel to three amazing events in just over a month, all of the signs were clear: I was pushing myself too hard.  I needed to rest.

Now, those who know me are sitting there smiling to themselves.  I have a reputation for “doing it all.” So it would be easy to say that it was just a case of finally burning out.  But my intuition told me it there was something else going on: my energy was being drained thanks to some pretty serious boundary leaks.

Here are some areas where you want to be sure that YOUR boundaries are clearly drawn:

1. Your money. Do you cave in when your clients ask you for a discount or extra services, or worse, are you bartering your services when you know you should be getting paid?  You will never make the money you want (and deserve) if you are giving away your services.

(If you’re bartering for your services, my coach’s challenge for you is to stop immediately.  No excuses, no apologies.  No matter what the spin, the truth is, the energy behind bartering is “I can’t afford it” – not the message you want to be sending to the Universe if you want abundance in your life.)

2. Your time. Do you let sessions and services run over?  (As someone who is… eloquent, let’s say, I know what a challenge this one can be.)  Do you get caught up in the haze of mindless email checking and Twitter skimming?  Your time is your ONLY non-renewable resource, which makes it the most valuable resource you possess.

3. Your energy. I’ve always been sensitive, bordering on empathic.  And as much as I’m a little embarrassed to admit it, I’m not sure how I got to be in my mid-30’s without fully understanding the realities therein.

Over the past week, I finally got it: your energy is not entirely your own.  If you’re standing next to someone and all of a sudden, you feel grumpy when you didn’t before, guess what!  It’s probably not you. Then there’s the leaks when it comes to expending energy (on other people’s drama, for example).

In both cases: pay attention, respect yourself and just say no. Feeling weird and you don’t know why?  Check in… and perhaps move away from whoever is nearby.   Someone wants to reel you into their drama?  You don’t have to engage.  (This goes for clients, by the way.)

4. People. One of my clients finished up a project (read: completed; as in, her commitments kept) for one of her clients recently.  Her client wasn’t happy and proceeded to interrupt her during private time with all kinds of changes, which would eat into time for her OWN projects.  After a little coaching, my client drew the line: the woman would get her changes, but she’d have to wait her turn.

The lesson: unreasonable demands are just that. You don’t have to give in!  A fear of drawing the line with clients often comes down to a fear of losing a client.  Again, scarcity thinking (and not what you want!).

5. Yourself. This is the biggie, and the one I hear talked about the least.  Boundaries with all of the above start with YOU.  You can have all the boundaries in the world, but they won’t mean a thing if YOU waste your own time, your own energy, your own money. If you’re good at insulating yourself from energy vampires, then turn around and waste hours of your own time in an Internet trance, that’s an incongruence!

I invite you to examine each of these 5 areas for boundary leaks and commit to taking ONE action step to clean up one or more boundaries this week. I cleaned up my boundary leaks across the board, and I immediately felt more energized than I have in months!  (My clients are happy, too, because they have “the Elizabeth they know” back.)

For more on boundaries, check out “4 Ways To Gracefully Set Boundaries In Your Business” by Alicia Forest of Client Abundance.

© 2009 Elizabeth Genco Purvis.  All Rights Reserved.

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